When the Wait is Hard and Your Hope Begins to Fade

“No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.” -Romans 8:37-38 NLT

It seemed that every obstacle possible presented itself. 

I knew from the moment I saw her she was meant to be our daughter. With everything in my soul, I believed God’s plan was to unite us as a family. 

But then, why did these horrible things keep happening? 

Today I have the luxury of seeing the power of her story and all the good God would work out of the broken. I see why the enemy wanted to keep us apart and how he used people, time, countries, governments, paperwork, and confusion as his tools. 

But back then, I didn’t have that luxury. Instead I had to trust while I waited. 

That trust came through a daily process of letting go of how I wanted things to go and embracing God’s version of how they would go. 

It meant surrendering again and again. And just when I would think I completely surrendered, I would find another layer to peel away. 

But God never let go. I see how He outsmarted the enemy at every turn. He cut through mountains of red tape and unforeseen circumstances. He put people in our lives willing to do more than what their jobs called for. He helped us meet the right people in the right places to bring our girl home. 

And after she came home, He’s broken down the walls she firmly placed around herself in protection of the neglect and abuse she lived for too many years. He’s healed, redeemed, built new our family – from the ground up. We aren’t just a family rebuilt to our former good. We are a family built anew. Stronger. Steadier. Smarter. 

We are better. 

Friend, God most definitely does not let go. Nothing separates us from His love. His word does not return void. His love is unfailing. 

I don’t know what circumstances along the adoption journey you are facing right now nor how big the mountains are in front of you. I also know how easy it is to feel as though God isn’t in it with us. But I can promise you one thing. 

Nothing can ever separate you from the love of God. 

His Word doesn’t say …


Or some things. 

It says NOTHING will ever separate you from His love. 

But there’s a catch. We can’t fully experience that love unless we do our part, too. We have to commit to that daily process of surrendering our version of the story for the one God is writing. 

So, how do we do that? How do we surrender and trust while we wait for God’s timing and God’s version of the story? I won’t tell you it’s easy or about a surefire way to get through the wait without a single glitch. However, I can tell you what helps and what I learned from our journey and from listening to other families as they’ve waited. 

8 Tips to Help You While You Wait: 

  1. Pray. Thank God for the work He is doing in you and will continue to do. Praise Him for the writing of perfect stories. For His perfect timing. Share with Him the burdens on your heart. Cry out for what aches. Ask Him to be your strength, your wisdom, your guidance, your joy. Be bold. Ask Him for all that you need, but surrender to Him, accepting that it be His will that is done.
  2. Keep encouraging scripture at the forefront of your mind. There is a great printable list HERE of verses for while you wait. (see the bonus resources in the margin)
  3. Remember that all we have belongs to God. 
  4. Keep gratitude front and center. 
  5. Choose joy.God provides us moments to treasure along the journey. Some are incredibly small and some are great big. Be looking for each one. Acknowledge them and embrace them.
  6. Live each day fully.Don’t find yourself saying, “I’ll be happy when  _______.” Be happy now. In spite of your circumstances.
  7. Focus on God instead of circumstances.If we focus on the things God isdoing rather than the condition of our circumstances, we will see progress and we will see Him. Focusing on our circumstances keeps us stuck in negativity. It is a mind shift that makes all the difference while we wait.
  8. Stay productive and engaged in more than just the adoption process.Keeping our mind, body, and soul active and engaged in a variety of aspects and interests keeps us from hyper-focusing and losing perspective. 

I encourage you to believe with everything in you that God’s timing is the right timing. Even when it doesn’t feel that way. 

I recently wrote a book titled, Surrendered Hearts: An Adoption Story of Love, Loss, and Learning to Trust.It’s our daughter’s story … well, actually God’s story of how He didn’t let go. How He did the miraculous. God showed us His unfailing love and I believe – no, I KNOW – He wants to show it to you as well. You can find out more HERE and purchase the book HERE

About Lori Schumaker: As a wife, adoptive and biological mom, teacher, writer, speaker, and coach, Lori’s heart is to encourage others to meet the challenges of life with the hope of Christ. Wherever you find yourself today, Lori’s blog found at www.LoriSchumaker.com is a place where you can find the encouragement you need. In her first book, she shares her family’s adoption story and lessons on surrender, trust, and loving well. You can also connect with her on FacebookInstagramTwitter, and Pinterest.